Every summer modesty seems to be a big issue in and around the Christian Church. Where ever you fall in this conversation, I would encourage you to watch and read some of the following articles. I have posted two that I agree with and one that I have issues with along with some side thoughts. Enjoy, and remember your responsibility in the Church
Modest Swim Suits:
This is the article that many in the blogo-sphere have been reacting to lately: http://www.qideas.org/video/the-evolution-of-the-swimsuit.aspx.
In it, we are given a technical explanation of why Ms. Rey has designed her swim suits to be the way they are. Her big idea is: Let’s protect the guys around us from falling into temptation. I enjoyed the video and think there is a lot in it we can learn from.
From the same web site, one can find this article: http://qideas.org/blog/modesty-i-dont-think-it-means-what-you-think-it-means.aspx (Christianity Today also had some, um, “insight” : http://www.christianitytoday.com/women/2013/june/dont-blame-bikini-blame-bikini-culture.html)
All I can say about these two links is that even though they have some decent thoughts regarding biblical texts about modesty, they focus way too much on “feel good emotions”. They both talk about how bikinis (and bikinis are not the main thing we should be talking about) allow women to enjoy the world the way we were meant to enjoy it. How else can women feel the sun and the ocean splash against them as they should! As one person said, the same argument can be made for frequenting a nude beach… but that is beside the point.
The point is that we are meant to enjoy the world he has created, but we are called to holiness and encouraging others in their pursuit of holiness, which means that we care about the thoughts and actions of others.
What I wish I had written:
No woman is obligated to dress modestly, but I am deeply thankful when they do because I see it has a gesture of Christian love, like someone turning down a cold beer for a Pepsi, all because they know that their friend is struggling with alcoholism. Modesty is best understood not as a compulsory act motivated by hate or blame, but a conscious decision based on strength and love.
This comes from the best response I have found: http://www.christianitytoday.com/women/2013/july/why-i-tell-my-daughters-to-dress-modestly.html?paging=off.
Yes, he is a man. Yes, I am a man. But that does not negate our ability to comment on this situation. The reason I love this man’s response to the situation is that he comes at it from a more solidly biblical view of taking care of our fellow believers (he quotes much of Romans 14 in the process).
Personally, I find conversations with bikini clad (or super short-short wearing, or cleavage-exposing, etc…) women very difficult and try to avoid them at all costs. For this reason, I am glad to be married to a woman who is pleased to care enough about God and me that she takes modesty and appropriateness seriously–asking me constantly if it’s OK to wear what she is wearing. The Church needs mature women like that who are willing not only to care about God in that way, but to encourage younger women to do the same– for the sake of their brothers everywhere.